Seks analny – tabu czy standard? – #8 Salon Zmysłów

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P: And Piotrek. P: Welcome in the next Salon of Senses episode, and we are… Ż: Żenia.
P: and Piotrek. P: Today’s episode started, how to say it, a bit from behind because our subject is a bit end approaching. Ż: Ass sided. P: Well, bottom sided. Because we’re going to talk about anal sex today. Ż: Mhm… It is still a quite difficult subject, isn’t it? P: Difficult, a taboo, controversial, a little bit … Ż: … a little bit smelly … P: … that we don’t want to look into it, nor through it. Ż: Deep.
P: Sometimes deep, that’s true. But for those advanced, you know. Ż: But we have to start from the beginning. P: That’s right. To be honest it occurred that… P: … the same nerves that are responsible for the pleasure in the vaginal area cause as well that we can feel pleasure in the anal regions … P: … so when we feel pleasure in one place we can also feel pleasure in the second, right? Ż: It also is a fact that during orgasm the same muscles flex so you can feel the common cooperation. Ż: People well trained can feel the anal muscles flexing. Ż: But never the less there is a big group of people that still have objections. Ż: More and more have anal sex but it is still a minority. Why is it like that? P: Because it is still a taboo. Ż: But anal sex is like thousands years old? P: Anal sex wasn’t at all so controversial like two, five thousand years ago. P: Ancient Greece, India, damn it, sculptures … Ż: Vases? P: Vases, yes. Well, anal sex was on a daily basis, one would say. But another problem is masculine anxiety. Ż: About what? That they would seem to be gay? P: For example!
Ż: That they are being taken from behind. P: Yes, yes, yes! That’s one thing, but there is also an assumption of femininity. P: Women on the other hand think the same, that a person passive, penetrated is feminine, womanish, generally a misleading gender role assignment. Ż: Bullshit.
P: Right! I hope that in modern society we all know that role division for masculine and feminine shouldn’t even exist. Everybody behave as they like. P: Hygiene is the biggest problem, one of the big gets at least, right? Ass is ass, isn’t it? P: Well, dump doesn’t smell nice, it is in there, is perceived infectious, contains bacteria. It is not hygienic. Ż: But you can avoid direct contact, quite easily. P: Sure you can. Not mentioning that there is diet and lots of other things we can do to make that place empty, so to speak – our ass. P: More over anus and rectum are empty most of the time, 20 centimeters deep there is no feces mostly. Just when we feel it, when its coming, it’s going through, going out and we’re empty again. Ż: OK. But never the less sometimes it worthy to take care that for example we don’t eat for a couple of hours before hand. P: That’s one way to do it. Ż: Or eat some food with fiber to ensure the consistence of the substance.
P: Veggies or powder fiber. Ż&P: Or have an enema done. P: Well, how would you start this anal play? Ż: I guess that for the beginning it is worthy to know anything about self, right? And what causes… Ż: I mean, at first how our muscles flex, whether it hurts or not. Ż: One may begin with a warm tube slip this tiny finger in and check whether its pleasurable or not. P: And after that we can switch finger for a bigger one. And we should, really. Ż: Or find out if it corresponds with any other caresses, or gives us even more pleasure. P: Whether we feel any pleasure at all…
Ż: Because no one said it has to give us pleasure and that’s also a fact, right? P: Precisely, more over it is also pretty normal that we don’t feel any pleasure. If we are not in fond of anal play, we are just not – nothing to worry about. Ż: But the next thing is to find a person, meet somebody that I will feel Just well. I will trust enough to do it with. P: But it is the most important thing! Cause, damn, I think that if this whole sex stuff is so limited within this taboo around it, this limitations keep influencing us. P: I think that going to bed we take the whole bunch of beliefs with us. P: So the person we go with is a really, really important. P: It’s essential to go with somebody that will not laugh when we, so to say – fart, not mentioning other possible surprises. P: Generally with somebody that we will not feel embarrassed with. Ok, now we have checked ourselves, we have this person checked, so – what we begin with? Ż: I guess one needs to start with a massage, relaxation, with a delicate entering. P: Again you women, candles, right? Music, to have everything smooth and nice… Ż: No! I’m not talking about back massage, I mean anal massage!
P: Aaaah … to have those regions relaxed a bit. Ż: Yes, to check it out, relax, to make the butthole relax… P: Well, that’s a good start. It Works with me – generally massage is something that works with me. Ż: For example. P: Especially crotch – this space between testicles and anus. Ż: You can also lick it, rimming. But there are two important issues. First would be lubrication. Anus is not self-lubricating, at least its lubrication is not efficient enough to let the penetration. Ż: So It’s very important to use lubricants. And the second thing is? P: It would be protection . That’s the most important. Anus is very delicate and has lots of blood vessels. Ż: By protection you mean what? Condoms? P: Well, yes, condoms, gloves – depending on what do we do. Cause we can perform a one finger penetration or use two fingers, we can do the fisting, right? Ż: And it is so import ant because anus is delicate. It’s easier to cause numerous micro abrasions or irritations. P: It’s easier to cause the bleeding especially invisible. Ż: Yes and it’s easier to have contact with it and get infected with STI – HCV, HBV, HFH and HIV. P: Not mentioning about the possibility to get infected with hepatitis without any contact with blood – containing faces may also be contagious. P: Honey, I got one thing for you to remember: anal sex shouldn’t hurt me! Ż: Really? This cactus shouldn’t be here then. P: That is what I had in mind. I’m already scared.
Ż: Nor the pineapple. OK. P: But seriously. Anal sex shouldn’t really hurt. Well, may be a little, at the beginning because of lack of practice. Ż: Those first times – maybe.
P: We are not used to it – yes but such a pain is negligible. P: But generally anal sex should be just pleasurable. Ż: The most import ant is consensual agreement. And we don’t do it in the meantime: „May be she will not notice me sticking the finger in …” and I will stick… P: …stick up to an elbow…
Ż: For example. No! We need a full consent. No means no. And that needs to be clear. P: But also during the sex, right? You need the consent beforehand but during sex “no” means “no”. Absolutely. Ż: Precisely.
P: Just like in any sexy situation but in this one it is essential to understand, I guess. Ż: Here is one good book on anal sex and the joy one can get from it – Jack Morin’s “Anal Pleasure & Health” that we cordially recommend … Ż: … It’s full of curiosities and the Guy spent so many years digging in the subject that he even has this nickname – “dr. Anal”. P: What’s fun it is more about health than pleasure, about how to prepare, about muscles, reflections, digesting, food. P: It’s really good to read it, to get the most for anal sex… Ż: Ok. but I have a surprise for you. Ta-dum! P: Aaah! My favorite.
Ż: Nexus Sparta. P: Well a perfect item to start the anal play with. First of all – it’s size. P: Perfect for beginners because it is relatively small. Ż: Made of medical grade silicone. P: Which is very important. It’s very easy to keep it clean – it’s enough to wash it, it doesn’t have pores, so the bacteria would not hide in there. P: Just keep in mind to use it only with water based lubricants. Silicone doesn’t go with silicone so water based. P: What’s also meaningful, it has this blockade here, right? P: Unfortunately having any anal play in mind one should use only toys with a base. That’s a guarantee we will not lose them inside. P: Just like that. P: It’s fantastic to start anal explorations with. It recharges nicely, its waterproof here and it charges with a USB cable. P: But what’s the most important for a guy and to be honest what gave me most pleasure is this little ball here. Ż: Such an alien! P: Well, it looks like an alien. This may not be a good looking feature but you can’t see it when it’s in the butt… But it massages prostate. P: And thanks to this feature the prostate massage is unbelievable. It’s a marvel. P: First, no, sorry second anal orgasm I had I had just thanks to this smart gadget. Ż: I’m checking if it works – it works! Hey, one may play with it … Listen! P: Nexus Sparta is sporty, rotates, everything! Little gymnastics. Ż: This gadget is to be won again. You should just do what? P: Just give us two Polish equivalents for English anal sex connected words. And these two words are: pegging and fisting. Ż: Correct. P: Be creative. Get on with something nice and funny. It’s important that it is one word. P: Put your answers on YouTube or Facebook. Ż: And Nexus is waiting, happy, smiling and waving from inside. Ż: Kisses. Żenia. P: And Piotrek.